Dating Reading
I’ve decided to stop dating for a while. This is a decision I make every so often and then after a while I change my mind and start again until I get sick of the whole thing and stop for another while. I don’t really have any good concrete reasons for making this decision right now except that I’m tired of having the same conversations over and over and never meeting anyone interesting and wasting my lunch breaks and/or evenings on dull yet anxiety provoking dates when I could be at home or sitting in my chair at work reading a book. Thus far, the books are far more compelling than my dating life.
It would be nice to be in a relationship with someone, it would be nice to meet someone with whom I click and with whom I could have fun, but so far I’m just meeting people who are irritating or who have serious issues…or who just aren’t interested in me (yes, amazingly enough, that sometimes happens…I can hardly believe it either!)…or, most annoying of all, are already involved with other people, which is territory into which I just will not delve, regardless of how open their relationship may or may not be.
I have a friend who’s all about dating. He belongs to just about every personals website out there and is constantly contacting new women and constantly going on dates with the ultimate goal of getting into a relationship with Ms. Right. He figures that this path makes sense, that his methods expose him to the most possibility, that it’s the most direct path to what he wants.
I have another friend who wouldn’t touch an internet dating site with a ten foot pole. She believes that if you’re meant to meet someone you will, that if you’re meant to fall for someone, you will, that you can’t force love.
I guess I fall somewhere in the middle. I definitely believe that you can’t force love, but I also believe that it makes sense to meet as many people as possible. However, I think I’d rather meet people by way of doing cool things instead of meeting people by way of looking to meet people. Thankfully, I want to do cool things, so perhaps all the magic will come together.
Alas, I have too much happening in my life right now to pursue any type of cool thing, but maybe by the beginning of the year I’ll be well settled in my job and we’ll have finished moving and life in general will feel calmer. Until then I think I’ll just play with my boys and work my way down my extensive reading list.